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“Let It Go” (A message for family law lawyers and clients)
(To the melody of “Let It Snow” by Dean Martin)
Oh, the work keeps piling up, it’s frightful,
And I’m dreaming of rest and sleep, it’s delightful,
But since I met my billings quota and have enough dough,
Let it go!, let it go!, let it go!
Well the quarrelling clients don’t show signs of stoppin’,
And the courts are all quiet, they’re not hoppin’,
The mediators have turned their voicemail way down low,
Let it go!, let it go!, let it go!
When we finally talk about resolving the case,
Oh, how I’ll hate dealing with the unreasonable guys and gals,
But if I really take a principled stand,
Then after it’s all signed, we’ll be pals.
The vengeance and pettiness is slowly dying,
And, my goodness, a settlement we’re still a-trying,
But as long as no one says “hell, no,”
Let it go!, let it go!, let it go!
When we finally reached a deal,
How I’ll hate preparing the order in draft,
But if the other lawyer asks me with some zeal,
At my office, I’ll practice my craft
The pursuit of a win was such a thrill,
Now I can finally send them my bill,
In the new year, there will be more clients and foes,
But until then, let it go!, let it go!, let it go!
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